How to Help Your Shy Kid Gain Confidence
Parents typically want the same things for their children. They want to be able to provide for them by giving them a place to call home and showing them love so that they feel protected, safe, and happy.
Another aspect of parenting is giving children the tools they need to help them as they grow up. Parents want their children to develop, learn, and grow. The truth is, some children are more shy and less confident than their peers. If you are worried your child is struggling with self-confidence, here’s how to help your shy kid reach their full potential.
Start With Yourself
Your child watches, listens, and observes way more than you may even think they do. They’re paying attention to your every move and listening to what you’re saying to others, including yourself. Be mindful of the words and tone you choose, especially when referring to yourself.
Your child will be able to easily pick up on any harsh criticism you may be using towards yourself. Try not to pick yourself apart or mention negative words about yourself, especially about your appearance. Work towards making positive comments about yourself, especially in front of your child. This will encourage them to do and feel the same about themselves.
Give Them Special Tasks
It’s common to give children chores that need to be done so that they can feel a sense of responsibility, control, and work ethic. Age-appropriate special jobs or to-dos can instill a greater sense of confidence. You can even call the task “special” so that they feel that it’s important and you’re trusting them to get it done correctly. Consider adding special tasks like the following to help your shy child gain a confidence boost:
- Being a cooking assistant
- Dressing themselves
- Feeding a pet
- Looking after a younger sibling
Tell Them You Love Them
As a parent, you love your child. That’s why you’re taking the time to read this blog and ensure you’re building a sense of confidence in them. Even though you know you love your child, and they may hear it all the time, make sure they know there aren’t any limitations to your love for them. Tell them you love them through the good times and the bad. If your child makes a mistake or a less-than-ideal decision, make sure they know that you still love them.
Ask Them For Their Opinions
Even though you’re the adult with the final say, ensure your child knows their thoughts and opinions are valid and heard. Ask them for their advice or opinions on certain topics of conversation. This action can show your child that they are valued, along with their ideas. Making decisions can help their decision-making abilities, confidence, and knowing that it’s okay to ask for help from time to time.
Be With Them
It’s important to find time to hang out with your child. While you may feel like you’re hanging out with them for multiple hours during a day, make sure that you have some times that you’re giving them your full and undivided attention. It can be easy to multitask when you’re hanging out with a child. Find time to put away any and all distractions. This means turning off the television, putting your phone away, and giving your child your full and undivided attention.
Seek Additional Support
If your child is struggling with their sense of confidence, you’re not alone. Many children require additional support to help them gain more confidence when they’re growing up. If you’re worried about your child being too shy, we’re here to help. Reach out Fox Child and Family Therapy today at 913-229-5691 to set up a consultation.